Talk to Your Husband About Having Your First Baby - Prepare for your discussion by writing down important reasons why you want a baby. Make a list of reasons a baby might make the bond with your husband stronger. Also write down what having a baby in your life would do for yourself. Are you lonely when he is at work all day and want a companion? Or maybe you want to commit yourself to being responsible for another person because you have so much love to give? Whatever your reasons are, write them down.
Ask your husband to set aside a couple of hours to discuss conceiving a baby. Let him know that it is important to you, and although you would never force him into being a father, that you think he would be great at it. Let him know that you want to be a mother, and give him your list of reasons why. Use "I" statements rather than "you" statements. For example, "I want to be a mother because I have just so much love to give a child."
Talk to Your Husband About Having Your First Baby
Discuss each reason separately because perhaps your husband will have something to add to those reasons. He might discuss why he feels the reason is not logical or valid and might present convincing arguments that cause you to change your mind. Ultimately, you both must come to an understanding of what is and is not reasonable on your list.
Set aside a specific amount of time to decide upon having a baby. It can be whatever is reasonable to you---a week, a month or even a year. During this time, learn all you can about being a mother, and provide learning material for your husband about fatherhood. There are a vast number of articles online, as well as books and magazines about parenting. It is important that you both understand the responsibility and commitment involved.
Having a baby is a huge decision that requires a lifelong commitment, both emotionally and financially. Talking to your husband about wanting to have a baby can be difficult. You might feel as if you are putting him on the spot or pressuring him into something he does not want. No one should ever be coerced into such a responsibility, but you can make suggestions about what you want. You can talk about having children with your husband in a few steps. - by eHow
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